Happiness Here?
9:53:00 PMKrishna RaoShe came out vehemently saying that I am happy in my marriage and I laughed at her.
She asked me why am I laughing at her and I told her that what she says is absolutely bullshit.
Indignation writ hard on her face and she was willing to tear me to pieces.
I then told her that I can prove it to her that her man or any other is as much a duffer as the next one and there is no happiness in her or any one's marriage.
I asked her to name anyone in her world who did not drink at all.
Of course she could rattle up only names which she could count on her fingertips.
There aren't many people who do not drink.( Hey, btw that does not mean these teetotaler guys are any better in marriage or in bed too!)
I told her then once these cool dudes are drunk they come home sozzled some day and then what is it that they do?
They do not anything that we can say as decent stuff. They just want to jump on you and screw the hell out of you as if it is the last thing that they want to do before the world came to an end.
Let us see if they wait for you to get ready or if there is any foreplay or any such thing?
None at all. Their only focus is to shove themselves and attain nirvana and nothing else matters.
Haven't you faced this thing in your world too, I asked! They are more bothered about their own than they are about yours!
She was reluctant to tell me that so I told her that we just want to be hypocrites and never want to accept that. You gotta give it to that dude, since he has trained you well.
You don't ever want to say that you too want it badly and would love to have the Mills and Boons type of romance also.
Sure, your guy can never come close to your fantasy or even an inch of offering you that nirvana which you crave for so can we just let it be. And if there is then he must be a gigolo!
Today the woman has become equally demanding and when she meets with a bloke who cannot offer her the moon she would rather settle for someone else. Then it is all about compromise and accepting like a pukka hypocrite. Aur kya kar sakte hai?
Just for this small reason you do not ask for a divorce, you say!
Then he has given me the child, you see!
Yeah, I know that and believe me that is a great reason to be stuck with a jackass!
Then you have your get-together and want you sister or some other babe in your family to get into another such type of a dukhbhari kahani? Tell me what pleasure do you get by shoving another person on the same path?
I know of someone who searched high and low for relationships which made meaning to her and finally she couldn't find anyone so she settled for someone who can use the dildo! What a silly goose!
To finally cap it up I could only tell her that she should let her fantasies play up but not to expect anyone who can come close to offering her heavenly type of love in life.
Sure, I should add a disclaimer here but whats the use? There maybe guys out there who would dispute me but dudes...you really don't know the truth here. Its all about meeting expectations and desires and that is the real crux of the problem. Stop expecting or do away with your desires completely.
Why not let all that crap be and join me in the quest for the ultimate nirvana by being happy with the Self alone?
Happiness is not outside of you so stop searching for it.
There is no marriage that is great enough. Not even the Gods are happy in their marriage or relationships. Tell me about one such?
So stop expecting and start living and be good to your own self. Be that great Self.
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